The secret, true secret to life, is honesty, it is the most powerful healer. Any relationship can be saved and healed by total honesty. Any damage in any area of life can be healed through the light of truth. Of course it is painful, but that purification creates the true liberation.
When one chooses dishonesty, as a way to protect one’s ego or person-hood, they lose everything they are trying to gain. People choosing dishonesty often feel “deserted” by the Divine, deserted by God. Of course God does not desert the person, but the person cuts the link they have to the Divine.